This is a moment where I feel a mixture of feelings and I turned to writing as I felt the need to express it.
Shame, anger, nonplussed, hurt, baffled, thwarted and much more...
It’s just so unnerving to see how people refuse your humble request of help so plainly and almost brusquely.
I humbly asked a friend of a friend on a social network application if he could help me on a certain issue as I thought he was the right person for it.
“Not interested” came the curt reply.
This has never happened to me before and I am not the type of girl who really goes forward to ask someone about something without much contemplation. In fact, I don’t even ask people for help until I am desperate.
I thought talking with particular friend would help me decide better and clear up the confusions of my mind. I don’t blame him for his blank refusal to talk to me, I mean, who am I to force him or judge him based on that?
There is something though I want to tell him particularly, but couldn’t do so because after the instant curt reply I replied “sorry I bothered you.” And deleted his number.
It was that instant where I was filled with a sudden surge of many emotions and started typing this. “Was he just genuinely refusing to help me or did he think I was a desperate girl with a deluge of haywire hormones wanting male company for entertainment ?. I hope its not the later though, as it makes me feel embarrassed though my conduct to him was not insolent or flirtatious.
What I feel now is the epiphany that I am no longer feel offended by this. I just learned that when he refused to help, I also felt something rise more than every other emotion. I was motivated. Motivated to find a way myself. I learnt that this world has no market for your negative feelings. Everyone only wants hear about the bright side of life. Your happiness and success, no room for anything else.
Hence, I would like to say for everyone who feels dejected and going through an unfortunate time in life: DON’T FEEL DEJECTED! Look inwards for strength to hold on and battle fiercely ! Finally win but dont forget to turn back and say “thank you” to every person who said “no”.

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