People in pain need to talk and be listened to. It can often be frustrating and the person feels helpless when there’s nobody to talk. Our friends can go through sad spells sometimes and those are the times they need us the most.
We can be of great help, but if we know how to start!
Listen, listen and listen. We know we have heard that thing 1000 times, listen some more. Give them both; time and complete attention. Give suggestions and feedback. Show that you are concerned.
Empathize! Never judge your friends on their feelings. Try to put yourself in his shoes and understand the situation yourself.
Give a friend the gift of hope. Hold their hands, put your arms around them. Physical comfort can be very soothing and reassuring.
Call them often. Don’t call if they want to be left alone. But call once everyday to check up and let them know you care. Sending a card might make them smile and brighten their day.
Crack up a joke that together you enjoy and tease your friend about a girl/boy. Compliment them to make them feel good about themselves. Be painfully optimistic and remind him/her of good times.
Send them books, on topic they are dealing. Don’t make them feel less. And most important, be patient!