Hi all WriterBabus. I am in a dilemma. I want some suggestions, especially from the female WriterBabus. I am single and am working in a small company. I rarely have any interaction with any girl in long long time except for this one girl who works in my office. She is beautiful and charming and probably single too. We two are the first ones to come to office and its about one hour after that anyone comes. That means about one hour of us two alone in the office. We talk and talk. We talk about all random stuff but work :P.
So am obviously attracted to her and sometimes I look at her and get lost into her while talking. She caught me sometimes looking at her. Probably she knows that am attracted to her. At first I thought she will start ignoring me when she caught me looking at her that way, but it didn't happen. Instead she gave me smile and she is talking to me more and more each day.
Now when a girl talk to you, it doesn't mean anything and am not sure if she is also attracted towards me. Or is she? I need some suggestions, and if your answer is yes then what should I do next? I am a bit shy kind of guy and not very good in making a move. I am a techie and hence my people's skills too are not that good.
Am I screwed? Please help.
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ask her but like a gentleman, wish you all the best...
@Mallu As if people need more complications, act detached and all. :p
I will talk to her tomorrow ... and maybe will ask her to show me around best place to eat in delhi ... she is a big foodie and brags about her expertise in this area ... so maybe a lunch or a dinner this weekend ... but asking for sunday on wednesday would be lame... so will ask about this on friday or thursday ...
and the week after that will be the detached policy ... what say mallu?
hope u will get a positive response
The other could be that you can take her reaction at the face value--she is also equally interested in you and would like to go out with you!!
You are the best judge which of the two possibilities are true for her; you have interacted with her for hours and would know her nature somewhat.
It helps to be aware of the true nature of things and not get blinded by our imaginations!
I would also like to add another very important point is --- whether you conclude in your guess work that she is interested or not interested—I strongly urge you to confidently but sweetly ask her out! You can never rely on your guess work versus reality, esp with girls mind! Good luck!
A woman can talk for hours to you, if you have a keen ear and she has nothing to do at that point of time. No attraction is required, they talk on and on with the house maid, with the bhaaji wala, with the nanny , if talking to you is all you were getting your hopes high then you would have by now discovered them to be all wrong :-) .
Thank you each one of you :)