CAN LOVE HAPPEN TWICE? You would’ve asked the same question if YOU TOO HAD A LOVE STORY (I am not mocking any WRITER, it’s just a coincidence). The answer to this question is Love can happen ‘N’ no of times (where N ϵ NATURAL Nos). Most of us fall in love multiple times. First with the person(s) we want to marry and finally with the person we marry (not because of our choice, but because of our parent’s).
Our Brain is manipulated by a lot of things. First our close ones they wouldn’t let you forget a minute thing about that person. There is a joke about this situation ”If you think about the same person at least 5 times a day………….congrats tumhari lag gayi”. You end up imagining yourself with that person in each & every romantic scene of movies. To add to this are singers and lyricists. From Ek ladki ko dekha to aisa laga (BEGINNING OF RELATIONSHIP) to Oye raju pyaar na kariyo (BREAKUP) they have a song for every situation, enhancing your misery. To add to this we have our social networking sites where you will find a lot of images motivating you to click a selfie on each occasion (to prove that you are also good looking).
IS THIS LOVE? The question is raised again and again. IT’S NOT. It’s just manipulation and bad judgment on the part of your Prefrontal Cortex. “If u want to term it as Love, FINE”, says Parietal Lobe, Occipital Lobe, Amygdala and other parts of the Brain.
But Prefrontal cortex doesn’t listen to them and answers the above question affirmatively and you wound up with this overrated feeling dominating your brain and your life (And we blame our poor HEART for all this saying,”DIL TO BACCHA HAI JI”)
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January 12th, 2015
as you said....love happens ....many times...
falling in love is not something you can control....
loving someone, yes, you can control it...but not falling in love..
yes , you can convince yourself that you love someone....maybe you will finish loving person ( if not, I pity those arranged marriages), but falling in love is...totally different, totally insane....totally magic....and totally ephemeral( ok, they say that it lasts @ 2 years...for me, was 3 ..., ) and, sometimes it becomes a kind, sweet love...other times it turns in hate...or despair ( if the other one brokes the relationship)
But, once in then thousand times, they both fall in love with each other..and people write novels, poems, real masterpieces about that love... even it doesn't lasts too long ....
falling in love is not something you can control....
loving someone, yes, you can control it...but not falling in love..
yes , you can convince yourself that you love someone....maybe you will finish loving person ( if not, I pity those arranged marriages), but falling in love is...totally different, totally insane....totally magic....and totally ephemeral( ok, they say that it lasts @ 2 years...for me, was 3 ..., ) and, sometimes it becomes a kind, sweet love...other times it turns in hate...or despair ( if the other one brokes the relationship)
But, once in then thousand times, they both fall in love with each other..and people write novels, poems, real masterpieces about that love... even it doesn't lasts too long ....
January 12th, 2015
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I am not saying that love doesn't exist...... But most of the times its bcos of overthinking......one more thing if u.love someone and that person.rejects you...... accept that rejection and move on.....don't turn it into hate or despair....
January 12th, 2015
yes...that is true...move on!
yet...again I'll say: Love doesn't happen because of overthinking...
suggestioning yourself is lying yourself... that is not love, but simply imagination......
yet...again I'll say: Love doesn't happen because of overthinking...
suggestioning yourself is lying yourself... that is not love, but simply imagination......
January 12th, 2015
Take LOVE as LOVE without too much analysis. Yes, LOVE can occur 'N' number of times.
January 12th, 2015
Certain enzymes are produced in our body which lead to symptoms such as high alertness and sweaty palms, they make us feel pleasurable and high on love. The number of times these idiotic enzymes are produced, that is the number of times we fall in love. These enzymes enable us to love someone, but there should be a mechanism which alerts us whether the person whom we are loving would reciprocate the feelings or not. So its just that our enzymes playing games with us.
January 13th, 2015
Enzymes do not play games. They very well do what they want to do.
January 13th, 2015
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But they don't play a fair game ;p
January 13th, 2015
Exactly! They don't do what they want to do fairly. All I am saying is that though the enzymes are functioned to make us feel in love, there should be some kind of mechanism which alerts us whether the person whom we are loving would reciprocate our feelings or not. Because if they don't love us back, we feel heartbroken which leads to various pieces of art(poems and all). Then we feel stupid as to why we fell in love in the first place. Like the author said,"you wound up with this overrated feeling dominating your brain and your life (And we blame our poor HEART for all this saying,â€DIL TO BACCHA HAI JIâ€)"
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@Adibirla you nailed it bro! ;)
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@Adibirla you nailed it bro! ;)
January 13th, 2015
most of time ppl got fall in infatuation but not in love. so we have to decide ourself whether it is love or infatuation.
January 13th, 2015
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And most of the times your brain will say it's love bcos u will always see the plus points of that person.....not the negative ones....
January 13th, 2015
If enzymes manipulate us, they get manipulated by reasoning too. No reasons - no enzymes. And reasoning is a human art. So should we say, love is artistic as much as scientific? And of course love in a sense is always overrated! Thats love.
January 13th, 2015
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I don't knw it's scientific or not but I am sure its artistic bcos only dose who have appropriate art have it ;p
January 13th, 2015
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@manash I never thought it d way u thought it
January 13th, 2015
Its always complicated. Love is natural, so scientific; love is manipulative and so artistic. Only the man in love with true feelings can describe it. That would be the definition.
January 13th, 2015
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But the how to know that somebody is in love and that too with true feelings
January 13th, 2015
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@manash "the" is typing error
January 13th, 2015
First off, love is inexplicable which is why great poets over the centuries have spent many hours scratching their brains and thinking and writing about love. It does not have a definition, @Manash.
January 13th, 2015
When one will be willing to risk everything for someone that would be true feelings of love. It ll begin with sacrifice. The same sacrifice we do for love of our own family members at times.
January 13th, 2015
Read it again. "The description would be the definition." surely it can be described. @Smriti
January 13th, 2015
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There is no proper description it depends on the perception of the person defining it....
January 13th, 2015
@Manash , the description wouldn't be the definition because definition is universal, acceptable and applicable to all, whereas description is just an individual's perception, it is highly subjective.
You talked about sacrifice and risking everything, that is your perception of love. It may not be so in everyone's case. The "definition" you gave for love my friend, is absolutely your perception.
You talked about sacrifice and risking everything, that is your perception of love. It may not be so in everyone's case. The "definition" you gave for love my friend, is absolutely your perception.
January 13th, 2015
I talked about sacrifice and "willingness to risk everything". If it is not in another person's case it is not love for him/her. For your information few descriptions are universal too, they don't differ from person to person. Its just like the universal description for love for your mother. It doesnt require a second perspective. @smriti
January 14th, 2015
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U may argue but don't fight......
January 14th, 2015
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@Manash and @Smriti
January 14th, 2015
Adibirla, we are not fighting, we're just having a healthy argument, so chillax :P
Manash, you cannot say that just because a person is not willing to risk or sacrifice for someone s/he does not love the other person. That is purely your opinion. Some people may love the others without willing to sacrifice for them and that does not mean their love to that someone is any lesser than someone who would sacrifice. You cannot shun a person's love.
Also, you said that "few" descriptions are universal. Yes they are, but only a "few", not all. And love is such a topic that descriptions of people would obviously vary. It won't ever be universal in case of love.
Manash, you cannot say that just because a person is not willing to risk or sacrifice for someone s/he does not love the other person. That is purely your opinion. Some people may love the others without willing to sacrifice for them and that does not mean their love to that someone is any lesser than someone who would sacrifice. You cannot shun a person's love.
Also, you said that "few" descriptions are universal. Yes they are, but only a "few", not all. And love is such a topic that descriptions of people would obviously vary. It won't ever be universal in case of love.
January 14th, 2015
A feeling of sacrifice is always a universal description in case of true love. And mind it we are not talking about manipulated love or crush or lust or attraction. Its true love. It cannot exist without the willingness to sacrifice. You can help it but will to sacrifice for family. Your true love is just as true as your family. This description would be universal I bet. @Smriti
January 14th, 2015
Manash, I do agree with you this time but lets take a hypothetical situation where a person is actually afraid to make sacrifices(mind you there are a lot of people out there who are afraid to make sacrifices). Just because that person is afraid to make sacrifice doesn't mean that s/he doesn't love someone.
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We started off with debating about love, took a round-about at definitions and descriptions and are now stuck at sacrifices.
Wait, what was the article even about?!?!
P.S.
We started off with debating about love, took a round-about at definitions and descriptions and are now stuck at sacrifices.
Wait, what was the article even about?!?!
January 14th, 2015
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The article was about how most of.the times.love is just a manipulation of your.thoughts and nothing more than that......
January 14th, 2015
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Hey u r my readers I have to abide by u....... I can't mock you.....;p
January 14th, 2015
But again we were taking about the "WILLINGNESS TO SACRIFICE". Someone may be afraid of sacrifices but still with the WILL however fainter it may be. Not everyone is able to sacrifice I do agree. @smriti
January 14th, 2015
Love is not a manipulation.... A manipulation of the mind can be anything else but love...And LOVE includes the willingness to sacrifice, or else is not true...
Those who really love describe Love in the same way ...
Anyone can argue and find mistakes in what the other says... For the most of you, here, love is just romance... I wish you, one day, to realize what love means! :))))
Those who really love describe Love in the same way ...
Anyone can argue and find mistakes in what the other says... For the most of you, here, love is just romance... I wish you, one day, to realize what love means! :))))
January 14th, 2015
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If it is not a manipulation or overthinking why someone falls in love with that other someone not with anybody else.......
January 15th, 2015
@adi birla : I loved the picture of your post my best freind used to quote same lines to me... :)
I didn't read the comments , but post was really nice :D
I didn't read the comments , but post was really nice :D
January 15th, 2015
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Thank u sambhavee..... U said ur best friend quoted the same lines....btw which lines??
January 15th, 2015
You wrote my spelling wrong.
And i was pretty clear in my comment which lines!
i.e The lines written on the picture..!
And i was pretty clear in my comment which lines!
i.e The lines written on the picture..!
January 15th, 2015
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Next time I will spell it correctly.. Sambhavee.....ooops again wrong ;p.....
And this image was forwarded a lot on.Whatsapp and Facebook l...
And this image was forwarded a lot on.Whatsapp and Facebook l...
January 15th, 2015
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I was just kidding...... My intention was not to hurt you Shambhavee.... U r my reader I don't want to hurt you.....
January 15th, 2015
@adi : Its quite okay.
firstly , i thought you r mocking me. I am not offended
I couldn't sense your joke.. :D
firstly , i thought you r mocking me. I am not offended
I couldn't sense your joke.. :D
January 15th, 2015
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I was just kidding....just trying to lighten the mood....
January 15th, 2015
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Okay sambhavee.....oops Shambhavee...
January 15th, 2015
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Okay okay I promise no more jokes on your name..... So which part of the article u liked the most??
January 15th, 2015
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I know it was.good.....
January 15th, 2015
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@ankita Glad u understood d point....
May 23rd, 2015
1)Prefrontal Cortex:The part of brain which performs self control, planning, reasoning, and abstract thought.
2)Natural Nos: 1,2,3,4,......upto infinity.
3)Can Love Happen Twice and I too had a love Story are two famous novels.