As a young mind of 23, all your energy goes in figuring out who you are. You keep telling yourself, this is the time to experiment, see the world and paint the town red. But deep down, each day you spend out there not knowing who you are and what you want, you kill a little bit of you. Is the confusion worth? I can answer that well from my experiences, but wait let me give you scenarios first and you can deduce what I want to say based upon your perspective. Here it goes:
I have been there, done there. I have justified the randomness by saying “Random is fun.” The love for randomness is all the more pronounced and the state of confusion in your head is at its peak. You walk across a street and have thoughts of people, friends and family, create a scene in your head and try to resolve those circumstances. I often wondered then, am I crazy? Now I know that is typical of an over thinker.
Oh, did you just say it’s high time to face the truth, trying to escape from life and justification is “don’t want to lead a normal life where you don’t realize the worth of every single moment?” Scared to face the truth, hell yeah!
What did I do when I was 23? I did everything I should have. It helped me my mistakes and helped me realize who I truly am and help me grow as a person.
I went with the flow.I met incredible people in life, people who cared, people who didn’t, people who are smart, the ones who are lazy, faithful and the list goes on. I have had amazing friendships and memories that would last me forever. That says it all, I like to know people so that I can learn from them and know who I really want to be. But it does not come free, especially when you don’t know who you are and who you want to be. You are prone to influence and you could succumb to influence unless you have the definitions of boundaries and morals clear in your head.
The one you are supposed to love, is yourself. Today, I know who I am, I know what I can be if I strive towards my goal. You do not need anyone to complete you. You have yourself. Till you believe that you were all that you were looking for, don’t stop. There is no hurry, life is no game, no race. The moments of despair will turn into happiness and you will enjoy the bliss of your company.
Nothing good comes from within the comfort zone. Stop doing what you are doing and kill the fear of being judged. You don’t have to please everyone, let people hate you and you will know who your folks are! Love them and keep them close. Do something out of the zone every day, achieve the impossible in just a couple of days and see yourself in a new mind. You just need to love yourself enough and respect yourself enough. I know now that there is no state as the happy state unless you love yourself.
It is acceptable to make mistakes and have new experiences. That is the whole point of this journey. As long as you analyse your actions and learn from your mistakes, you are good.
Paint the town with your own palette and love yourself more than anyone can ever do. You will be much happier when you don’t need someone to make you feel whole and someone who can complete you. You came to this world alone and not with your spouse, remember? That happens for a reason.
Respect yourself enough and move on in life! Face life with that precious smile of yours and the world will love you for who you are. Respect the blessing of this life, for not all are lucky to be born humans.
Truth in all the lies