Throughout the ages there were men known as 'perfectionists'. They say these are the people who are perfect. But again, are they? The answer is a huge 'NO!'
Who are perfectionists? They are the ones who pursue perfection rather than own it. They like to accomplish every task big and small with 'perfection' that is self defined. But yes they are as imperfect as you and me.
We have strived through time to achieve the feat of being perfect. Perfect student, perfect lover, perfect officer, perfect husband/wife, perfect father/mother, perfect anything that may be spelt. But have we achieved? The proper question would be - Can we? Another logical question could be - Should we?
So should we? If you are a person saying "YES" you would probably end up one day amassing great knowledge, wisdom, wealth or personality and then declare to yourself - "NOW I AM THE PERFECT MAN!" Very sadly, you will just be another adamant creep from that very moment onwards! You will begin to condem people around you and despise social customs. You will hate the imperfection in them. You will avoid society and call it an imperfect institution. But one day, somehow, you will end up hating yourself for not being able to be loved, cared, cherished! Eversince, you had been an imperfect being too, with a false assumption woven into your soul and thus proving it. And life may never bestow you with a second chance to begin all over again.
So, perfection is great but pursue it and avoid making it your identity. Learn to embrace imperfection too, because it will ever be your partial identity for lifetime. Be the man, an 'imperfect perfectionist', and one day you may end this life, living your turn 'perfectly'.
Comments (10 so far )
Why do you think that WE, all, did that?
It is good to be perfectionist, if this Means to Give your best .... Doing Something Better than we did it yesterday ...
And yes, we can BE Better Every Day ...
The worst is when You Want to Be perfect, and you want to prove that to everyone ...
Perfectionism becomes, then, a mental illness.
The paradox is that such a perfectionist does not hate the society.
He needs the society, he needs the public to admire and recognize his perfection.
When I say that I hate society, but I love the people , you have to realize that actually I hate an idea (a system which becomes more corrupt and more segregationist ...) In fact, the hatred is not the right word, and I see that you hate (despise) in the same way as I do ( more, you dare to judge those whom you suspect them of perfectionism.)
Wanting to always be right is another side of perfectionism.
Also, having some ready-made creeds (that usually, the society imposes on them) and not being open to other ideas, being sure that they know everything, they understood everything and reached the wisdom's peak.
A perfectionist needs the others without loving them, but he has a narcissistic love of himself.
Usually they quickly write the lines they said in a conversation, not to forget their perfect lines ... and they repeat them whenever they could.
They like to compete with others,but not to demonstrate that they are right and are better, but to humiliate the opponent...
Your post is good, but it's more acid than deep...I wonder why, when you are good at writing, you have clarity and cursivity...
Don't let yourself provoked ;)
Keep it up!