Once someone told me that the most used phrases can give you an insight to the person's personality. Frankly, I didn't realised it until I started to notice people, that closely. Being a writer/journalist, I get chance to interact with many people in my life. I also got chance to work with few good organisation till date. When I sit and analyze the conversation that I used to have with them, I understand the connection between them.
You might wonder how it is possible, but trust me and try to do it yourself. I had a boss, who was a very experienced person and truly a gentleman. I got a chance to work with him for around 6 months and it was really amazing. We were a team of an upcoming features daily of Pune, and he was the one who was looking after every department. We were going through brainstorming session and during that time, despite being asked not to use Facebook, some of us actually try to sneak out and used it. On many occasion, he would quietly stand behind that person, without uttering a word. Had it been someone else, he would have shouted. But he, on the other hand, just stood there for a while and would leave. We were a young team, with a mixture of experienced people and freshers. During the process when we used to meet to decide about the page names, content and other things, I never heard 'I' from his mouth. He always used to address us with 'We'.
He used to say that 'We want this on newspaper. We need to bring out this content'. He was experienced and can easily that 'I need this and that' but he said 'we' making us a part of this process. Then, we got another higher management person from the same office. When he used to address us, he always said 'I know this. I know that'. When the former person spoke to us, we felt a team, when later spoke, we felt an arrogant boss.
When our former person left the organisation due to some clashes, people started to leave the organisation. We understand that it was difficult to leave with a person who think that just because he is paying us, he has every right on us. His 'I' showed attitude which wasn't accepted by everyone. While working for these two people, I realised that 'I' can be a very big problem when you're dealing with people; be it anyone. It is always better to be polite and gentle. We hardly care about our phrases, but our these phrases are the reflection of our personality. So, watch out your phrases and be good to people.
