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Virginity is something we know, have heard of, talked about and as a culture obsess about. It is considered a valuable thing to have (especially if you’re a female) and a perplexing thing (if you’re a male).
Female virginity is valuable to the society, but man’s virginity isn’t. While a female is given certain names, males just get away with it. Our society shows such double standards when it comes to females. Where women are shamed for having sex and men are rewarded for it.
But why is it that virginity of females is given so much importance? Women were and still are considered as a commodity and not human beings, there’s a pride that men take in possessing women that satisfies their ego, and thus, they see women as objects that they have won over and as their belonging! The whole Indian ritual involved in marriage called “kanyadaan” and “father-walks-the-daughter-down-the-aisle “holds no importance because it’s nothing but mere transfer of possession from father to her husband. Girls are referred to as “paraya dhan” or another man’s possession right from their childhood.
Virginity is a social constraint, prevalent from the very beginning of society and culture, and the consequences of which, we are seeing today in the form of rapes, molestation, abuse and violence. The problem lies in the fact that women are considered the “weaker” sex and thus not given importance. Men take a certain pleasure in winning over and ruling them.
Not just the male domination is prevalent but there’s another thing that is associated with female virginity- “pureness”
Females who are virgins are considered as pure and their virginity is of utmost importance to them and is often confused with their dignity. Right from her early days, a girl is taught to treasure and value her virginity. How can a tissue wall in a girls’ body determine her dignity and pureness? According to an old Indian ritual, many families practised keeping a white piece of cloth or a white bed sheet on the first night only to check if the girl is “pure” or not.
If a girl loses her virginity the wrong way—at the wrong age (too young)--with the wrong guy (her love)--at the wrong time (before marriage), then the society would label her as “damaged” or “desperate” In some culture, women who are not virgins are exiled or even killed for that matter. Not being pure (before marriage) brings shame and dishonour to the girl’s family. And, may god bless the rape victims; how to society bans and boycotts them, they are treated as inhuman and any less of a person.
Meanwhile, men don’t have to worry about being judged for “losing” their virginity. When they marry, they don’t have to face any societal barriers go through any tests of their pureness or of the consequences. Such is the society!
Society has defined various levels for women and to judge them on the basis of when they start having sex. If she’s young, and not married she’s already termed as a slut. Women wearing revealing clothes, having male friends are perceived to have a loose character.
Since, virginity is linked to pureness that means, the number of times you have sex, you become impure. Thus, a married woman having kids is the most impure among all? right? Thus, a woman’s value is inversely proportional to the number of times she’s had sex!
Also, purity is only linked to heterosexuality, meaning you are not pure only if you have had “normal” sex, i.e., the penis-in-vagina kind of sex. So, if you haven’t had this kind of intimate relationship, you’ve no had sex!
Homosexuality doesn’t even come into account. Sometimes, even oral sex and anal sex don’t “count” in spite of having the word sex in it!
Virginity is nothing but your own idea about it. It will take any shape as you would want to give it. it depends on the society, on YOU! After all, social constructions are what we tell ourselves how the world is. The more critical you become about virginity, the more unappealing it would become. There’s a need to open our minds and broaden our horizon and consider virginity as normal; a girl as a human!